Today there are some people I need to say sorry to. But sorry alone doesn’t cut it. There needs to be a future where I don’t have to keep saying sorry because I don’t have all these problems. So in addition to sorry I need to be able to sit down and speak about how to make this not happen all the time in the future.

That’s the harder part. It’s easy to say sorry. It’s easy to show remorse and hope for forgiveness. It’s harder to change behavior. I read that humans evolved the behavior of showing our sadness to each other (crying, facial expressions etc) in order to encourage our friends and family to feel bad and want to help us. When we do something bad, and then show that we’re remorseful about the bad thing we did, the person we hurt will see our sadness and instinctively have some feelings of forgiveness towards us, even if we don’t deserve it and will just hurt them again. I’m not just talking about me here, I’ve seen this phenomenon everywhere, it’s taught about in Psychology as part of the cycle of abuse. Showing sadness is the easiest way to gain forgiveness, but it isn’t going to break the cycle.

So being remorseful is easy, changing is hard but necessary.